What to Wear to Destination Weddings

What to Wear to a Destination Wedding: A Guest’s Guide

Dressing for a wedding as a guest can be a challenge. Even more so when it comes to a destination wedding, where you have to try to plan ahead without knowing what the venue or the weather will be like!

There are all kinds of variables with a destination wedding, and the dress code can vary, too. Guests should think about the venue (beach, garden, church, ballroom), the weather, the formality of the celebration, and other factors when choosing an outfit.

It seems like an overwhelming task. But don’t worry: this guide will answer all your questions about wedding dress codes and help you find the perfect outfit for your next destination wedding as a guest.

Wedding Dress Codes

Most couples will announce a dress code on their wedding invitation or website. Most destination weddings tend toward a more casual dress code, especially if they’re in a tropical location or on the beach. That said, it really depends on the wedding and venue. It’s important to know how to decode the language of dress codes so you can pack appropriately.

Here is a helpful guide to some of the most common wedding dress codes. These aren’t the only ones you might hear, especially as couples push the boundaries of traditional weddings. Don’t be surprised if you are invited to a wedding with a dress code you’ve never heard of before!

That said, most weddings continue to stick to the classics. Here’s a handy breakdown of those and what they mean for guests.

Black Tie

Black tie is the most formal of dress codes. It’s not common for weddings these days, but they do happen!

These weddings are usually an evening affair and thus require evening dress. For men, that means a tuxedo and black bowtie (though some people say that a warm-weather wedding permits a tuxedo with a white jacket). Women should wear an evening gown that goes down to their ankles, in elegant fabrics. Jewelry and heels are also expected, but not absolutely required.

Formal

Formal, sometimes called black tie optional, is a slight step down from the fanciest dress code. For men, this means they’re not required to wear a tuxedo; instead, they can opt for a dark suit and tie. The only real difference between formal and black tie attire for women is that dresses don’t necessarily need to be down to the ankles. Instead, you can wear a knee-length or maxi dress, but now is not the time to break out your miniskirt!

Semi-Formal

Semi-formal is sometimes called “dressy casual” or “church dress”. This dress code allows nice but relaxed attire. Women can wear knee-length dresses, stylish pantsuits, or a dressy blouse and skirt. Flats or heels are both appropriate. Men should wear a dress shirt and slacks, either with or without a tie. It isn’t necessary to wear dark colors; in semi-formal dress, men and women can wear pastels, patterns, or brighter fabrics.

Casual or Beach Casual

With a destination wedding, it’s not unusual to see a dress code listed as “beach casual”. Still, that doesn’t mean you can show up wearing a bathing suit or a T-shirt and shorts. For women, a sundress and flats or nice sandals is appropriate. For men, slacks and a collared shirt is a good choice. Remember that it’s better to go a bit overdressed than underdressed, so ties and jackets are acceptable.

“Casual” often — but not always — implies an outdoor affair, so bear that in mind as you choose your outfit.

Cocktail Attire

Cocktail attire is a common dress code for weddings. This can be interpreted as nice, but relaxed. Imagine what you might wear to a nice restaurant for dinner! For women, this usually means a knee-length or calf-length dress, not a ballgown; they can also choose a pantsuit or a stylish jumpsuit. For men, cocktail dress is often a suit, perhaps in a lighter color or with a brighter tie (though a tie isn’t a necessity if you’d rather go without!).

What to Wear to a Destination Wedding by Dress Code

Okay, that’s all great to know in theory. But what are some real-life examples of appropriate dress for a destination wedding of every dress code?

These days, dress codes aren’t quite as rigid as they used to be, and guests have more leeway. That said, it is a good idea to know what’s expected — especially if you want to be a good guest and dress appropriately. Remember that you can elevate a simple outfit with statement accessories like scarves, shawls, ties, clutches, shoes, jewelry, and other items.

Don’t worry, we have a go-to guide to give you a few ideas. Use this as a jumping-off point to put together an outfit that is both elegant and unique!

Beach Formal Wedding Attire

For Women: An ankle-length dress in elegant fabric such as silk, lace, or tulle, with preference given to light, summery colors (though you should avoid white or off-white). Patterns, metallics, and bright colors are acceptable as long as they’re not so flashy as to draw attention away from the main event. If you prefer, an upscale pantsuit or jumpsuit is also appropriate.

Avoid stilettos, which can be dangerous in the sand. Instead, go for thicker heels, wedges, or flats. Jewelry is a plus and can be used to elevate a more casual outfit.

Beach Cocktail Wedding Attire

For Women: Tea-length or midi dresses in bright colors or patterns or stylish but comfortable pantsuits, jumpsuits, and separates. Dressy sandals or flats are good options if you’d rather avoid the heels.

Beach Casual Wedding Attire

For Women: Beach casual wedding dress can be imagined as what you might wear to an evening out at an oceanside restaurant. For women, a colorful sundress with sandals (but not flip-flops) is perfectly acceptable. A nice romper would also be a good choice.

Consider the Venue

In addition to the dress code, you’ll want to consider the venue when choosing your outfit. Is it inside or outside? Is it a religious venue such as a chapel? Is it on the beach itself, in a lush garden, or on a rooftop terrace? Each of these factors into what is appropriate to wear to the wedding.

Here are a few common venues that you will find at destination weddings:

Beaches
Churches
Terraces
Ballrooms
Patios
Rooftops
Restaurants
Gazebos

Outdoor Venues

Not every destination wedding takes place on a beach. There are many other outdoor venues that are often used. These include rooftop terraces, patios, gardens, and gazebos.

If the wedding is being held outside, there are a few things to consider.

Heat — For a destination wedding in a tropical location, you’ll have to consider the weather. Pastels and lightweight fabrics are an excellent choice, since they breathe more effectively and will keep you from overheating.

Also consider the sun. If there is little to no shade at the venue, you may want to bring along a hat or shawl to protect your skin (and of course, sunscreen is always a wise addition).

Terrain — If the venue is a garden or patio, you have a bit more freedom when it comes to footwear. If you’re not planning on walking over sand, you can choose more formal options such as stilettos or other heels.

Of course, plenty of couples opt for the classic beach wedding, too! This also offers a few more options for guests — and of course, a few extra considerations.

Indoor Venues

Many destination wedding resorts offer a variety of beautiful indoor venues. These can range from indoor restaurants to ballrooms and other event spaces. So how do you plan your outfit if the party will be staying inside?

Plan for comfort — Indoor venues can vary widely. You won’t be exposed to the elements as you would with an outdoor ceremony, but you should still plan on wearing an outfit that is both stylish and comfortable. Bring a wrap or jacket in case air conditioning is high. If you choose to wear high heels, consider bringing a backup pair of flats so you can dance without torturing your feet.

Churches/Chapels

Some all inclusive resorts offer churches or chapels on the property for a religious ceremony. If the wedding will be held in a religious venue, it’s important to be respectful — even if you yourself aren’t a church person.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you prepare an outfit for a destination church wedding.

Dress modestly — Different churches have different standards, but you’re unlikely to get scolded or called out for your outfit. Still, dressing modestly is usually expected as a sign of respect for the couple and the church. That means situation-appropriate dress without a lot of flamboyance.

It also means no bare legs (for men and women) and that your shoulders and back should be covered. Women should avoid wearing very low- or high-cut dresses. It is also a good idea to wear modest footwear, such as low heels or dress shoes.

Dos & Don'ts

There are a few important rules to remember as you’re choosing your wedding outfit. Here is what to keep in mind:

DO wear something comfortable.
Weddings are long affairs, so you’ll want to make sure that you can make it through the day without pain or discomfort. Consider the weather and the venue. If it is hot, dress appropriately to avoid overheating or sunburn. If you’re celebrating on the beach, avoid wearing high heels that make it difficult to walk in the sand.
DON’T wear something too revealing.
Be respectful by dressing appropriately and avoid calling attention to yourself as a wedding guest.
DO follow the dress code.
If the wedding couple has made the effort to put a dress code in place, it is a polite request, not a suggestion. Be a considerate guest by following their wishes.
DON’T wear white.
You’ve probably heard this one! It’s considered extremely rude in places where brides usually wear white, as it is seen as upstaging her. A single white piece in an otherwise colored outfit, such as a white sweater or dress shirt, is usually okay.
DO bring options.
Until you get an idea of the venue and what the weather will be like, you won’t necessarily know what’s right to wear. If unexpected rain hits or the venue is more formal or casual than you expected, it’s a good idea to have a few choices on hand.
DON’T ask the bride (or groom!) what to wear.
They’re in the midst of a ton of planning, so don’t give them another task by having to spell out what to wear for each guest. Take the dress code into consideration and make a tactful choice for your destination wedding guest outfit!

Final Thoughts: Destination Wedding Guest Attire

If the prospect of packing destination wedding guest dresses or suits intimidates you, don’t worry. These guidelines are a good start for helping you choose the perfect outfit. Bring a couple of different options so you can make adjustments as needed for the venue and weather. And of course, make sure you bring comfortable shoes so you can dance the night away!